Eppadi Manam Thunindado

Rama ExileLet us take our minds to the scene from Ramayana where Rama is summoned to his father’s presence the day before his coronation. Kaikeyi has demanded the boons promised to her by Dasaratha; she wants her son Bharata to be coronated and Rama to be exiled. Dasaratha is devastated but obliged to keep his word.

सप्त सप्त च वर्षाणि दण्डक अरण्यम् आश्रितः |
अभिषेकम् इमम् त्यक्त्वा जटा चीर धरः वस ||

You have to leave this coronation function and dwell in the forest of Dandaka for fourteen years, with matted hair and clothed in animal skin

So says Kaikeyi to Rama, when Dasaratha finds it too difficult to utter the words.  How shocked Rama would have been to be exiled thus! Yet he takes it manfully, seeing it as his duty to fulfill his father’s words to Kaikeyi. Bidding farewell to his mother Kausalya, Rama comes to inform Sita of his imminent departure. He bids her farewell, advising her of her duty towards Bharata, who is to be king in his stead, towards his father Dasaratha and his mothers. Sita, quite unlike herself, does not take this meekly.

एवम् उक्ता तु वैदेही प्रिय अर्हा प्रिय वादिनी |
प्रणयात् एव सम्क्रुद्धा भर्तारम् इदम् अब्रवीत् ||

“Sita, who speaks kindly and deserving of kindness, after hearing Rama’s words, became angry out of love alone and spoke thus to her husband.”

She is upset and demands to go to the forest with Rama, saying that the destiny of a wife is tied to her husband. Her words are strong; she says that she cannot be prevented from her intention.

Rama explains to her the many discomforts, difficulties and dangers faced by forest dwellers. He speaks of dangerous animals, the lack of food, bed and comforts; he tells her of the rigours of the life of a hermit.

तत् अलम् ते वनम् गत्वा क्षमम् न हि वनम् तव |
विमृशन्न् इह पश्यामि बहु दोषतरम् वनम् ||

“Therefore, do away with the idea of your coming to the forest. The forest is not indeed bearable for you. Reflecting now, I perceive the forest as having too many disadvantages.”

Sita tries to convince Rama in many ways. She talks of her duty to be beside him, she talks of soothsayers predicting her stay in a forest. She even threatens suicide! When he tries to dissuade her, she demands to know why he is afraid of taking her, going so far as to ask-

किम् त्वा अमन्यत वैदेहः पिता मे मिथिला अधिपः |
राम जामातरम् प्राप्य स्त्रियम् पुरुष विग्रहम् ||

 “What will my father, the king of Mithila, think of having a son-in-law such as you, a woman having the form of a man”

Strong words indeed!! I was surprised when I read the word to word translation of this chapter; I had imagined Sita as a softer character, who goes quietly with whatever is demanded of her.

Curious to see what Goswami Tulsidas writes in his Ramcharitmanas, I looked it up. In this, it is Kausalya who advices Rama that Sita is too gently brought up to survive the forest and she advices him to leave her behind. Sita is described as अति सुकुमारी , exceedingly delicate; as being timid चित्रलिख कपि देखि डेराती – frightened even to see a picture of a monkey. Rama then dissuades Sita by demonstrating her unfitness for the forest in many ways.

मानस सलिल सुधाँ प्रतिपाली । जिअइ कि लवन पयोधि मराली ।

Can a swan brought up in the nectarean water of the Manasa lake live in salt water of the ocean?

Sita’s reply is much softer than in Valimiki’s dialogue. Her main argument is that a wife should be with her husband, and that she could not bear to be separated from him.

बन दुख नाथ कहे बहुतेरे । भय बिषाद परिताप घनेरे ॥
प्रभु बियोग लवलेस समाना । सब मिलि होहिं न कृपानिधाना ॥

You have mentioned many hardships and perils, woes and afflictions attendant in forest life; but all these put together will hardly compare with an iota of the pangs of separation from my Lord, O fountain of mercy!

She offers herself in service of her Lord, she begs and pleads in her distress.

सबहि भाँति पिय सेवा करिहौं । मारग जनित सकल श्रम हरिहौं ॥

I shall render all sorts of service to my beloved Lord and shall relieve him of all the toil occasioned by the journey.

Tulsi’s Sita is more gentle but comes across as rather servile, calling herself a दासी or handmaiden.

Arunachala Kavi’s (1711-1779) representation of her is more like what I had imagined her to be. This great Tamil poet wrote the musical-drama called Rama Natakam which is based on the Ramayana. My song choice of today is set to the scene above. In contrast to Valmiki’s Sita who angrily demands her rights or Tulsi’s Sita pleadingly offering her services, Arunachala Kavi’s Sita is distressed but aware of her rights, as she reminds Rama of promises made.

 “How can you even bear the thought of leaving me?” she asks. She reminds him of his promise to never separate from her in any birth and asks if he is breaking his word to her. She speaks of her distress;  “By distressing me again and again, you kill me without killing me with your words” she says. There is pathos in her pleas and it is well expressed in the Raga Huseni. I believe it was set to tune by Ariyakudi Ramanuja Iyengar. For lyrics and translation, see footnote.

My favourite rendition is by Sanjay Subrahmanyan who is extraordinarily talented in showing bhava, expression, in his music. I have just listened to at least fifteen renditions and for me, none come close to the expression he portrays! I am a fan!

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I also like very much K.V.Narayanaswamy’s rendition which is beautifully enunciated.

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Footnote (Lyrics and Translation) :

Composer : Arunachala Kavi
Raga : Huseni
Language: Tamil

எப்படி மனம் துணிந்ததோ, சுவாமி
வனம் போய் வருகிறேன் என்றால்
இதை ஏற்குமோ பூமி?

எப்பிறப்பிலும் பிரியேன், விடேன்  என்று கை தொட்டீரே
ஏழையான சீதையை நட்டாற்றிலே விட்டீரே

கரும்பு முறித்தாற் போலே சொல்லல்லாச்சுதோ ?
ஒருக்காலும் பிரியேன் என்று சொன்ன சொல்லும் போச்சுதோ?
வருந்தி வருந்தி தேவரீர் வெல்ல (alt: சொன்ன ) வார்த்தையால் கொல்லாமல் கொல்ல
இரும்பு மனது உண்டாச்சுதல்லவோ?
என்னை விட்டுப் போகிறேன் (alt: பிரிகிறேன்) என்று சொல்ல


eppaDi manam tuNindadO, swAmi
vanam pOy varugiREn enDRAl
idai ERkumO bhUmi

appiRappilum piriyEn, viDEn enDRu kai toTTIrE
EzhaiyAna sItaiyai naTTATRilE viTTIrE

karumbu muRittAR pOlE sollallAchchudO ?
oru kAlum piriyEn enDRu sonna sollum pOchchudO?
varundi varundi dEvarIr vella (alt: sonna) vArttaiyAl kollAmal kolla
irumbu manadu uNDAchchudallavo?
ennai viTTup pogirEn enDRu solla

How (eppaDi) can your mind (manam) even bear the thought (tuNindadO; literally dare), O Lord (swAmi)? If you say (enDRAl: if so) that you will leave (pOy varugirEn) for the forest (vanam) (implied: without me), will the earth (bhUmi) bear it (ERkumO)?

Did you not hold (toTTIrE: literally touch) my hand (kai) and say “I will never part with you (piriyEn), I will never leave you (viDEn) in any birth (eppaRappilum)”? (Refers perhaps to pANigraha ritual in a wedding). And yet (implied) you leave ((viTTIrE) this wretched (EzhaiyAna) Sita mid-stream (naTTATRil)?

So there is to be (AchchudO) this harsh (karumbu muRittar pOlE: literally like a sugar cane being broken) proclamation (sollall) ? Are the words (sol) “I shall never (oru kAlum) separate from you (piriyEn) that you spoke (sonna) forgotten (pOchchudO: literally gone)? By distressing me again and again (varundi varundi), you kill me (kolla) without killing me (kollAmal) with your winning/subduing words (vella vArtayAl) O Lord (dEvarIr)! Have you become hard-hearted (irumbu=iron, manadu=mind, uNdAcchu=come into existence) enough to say (enDRu solla) that you will leave me behind (ennai viTTu pOgirEn)?


Filed under Arunachala Kavi, Carnatic Music, Compositions in Tamil, K.V.Narayanaswamy, Sanjay Subrahmanyan

13 responses to “Eppadi Manam Thunindado

  1. Arunachala Kavi’s song reminded me of A.K. Ramanujan’s essay on the Ramayana. Give me Valmiki’s Sita to Tulsi any day! Valmiki says it as it is—warts and all. Sanjay Subrahmanyan’s rendition is, of course, a pure delight!

    • Hello Chandramouli, I have to agree with you there, I didn’t quite take to Tulsi’s Sita but of course, it’s based only on this small section of the story. I need to read it all one day to form an informed opinion. I haven’t read Ramanujan’s essay, I will look for a copy. Glad you enjoyed SS too! Cheers. Suja

  2. Suja, you say you prefer Sita’s position as rendered by Valmiki – but could the later poet’s version not be considered as an interiorisation of Sita’s attitude, understood by him as too brutal in Valmiki? Could she not have been made more obedient, simply, and therefore her fight would be thus a fight within herself (as opposed to against her husband), against her own passion? I know this sounds maybe anti-feministic, but reading your account, I wondered what you would have said about the idea.

    • Hi Yves, I too have been pondering about this for a few days. I am not sure that Tulsidas deliberately made her more obedient to show her internal conflict. I have been thinking that literature reflects life as experienced by the writer, does it not? Not just literature, it is art in general. For example, when Indians make a sculpture of Buddha, he looks Indian, as he should. When you see sculptures of Buddha in Thailand, he looks distinctly oriental! Jesus was from Palestine but in all the art from Europe, he looks distinctly European, does he not? Thus, I believe, that when Valmiki drew us a picture of Sita through his poetry, he cast her on the basis of his own experiences. Were the women of that time (in the early BCs) stronger and bolder than the women of India at the time of Tulsidas (16th century)? By then the Muslims were well established in India, so was the need to protect the women from the hands of the invaders. The purdah (veil) became common in the North. Perhaps that resulted in women taking a more subservient position too? Arunachala Kavi was from the South, from a later time. Again, the culture was different, and the Sita he portrays seems different. Both Valmiki Ramayana and Tulsidas’s Ramacharitmanas are sacred to a huge number of people. And there are a number of other versions as well. The story remains the same but the characters seem to have personality changes to suit the times!! I wonder if the characters in the Bible have also had personality makeovers depending on the version?

      • I think you certainly have good points and fictional characters must indeed mirror an artist’s particular worldview. And you’re right that Biblical figures have varied tremendously too depending on which period of time readers have used them for their own purposes. (There aren’t different versions of the Bible, but certainly different interpretations of Biblical figures).
        Concerning Sita, here is another way of formulating my concern: I was wondering if the “modern” version by Tulsi wasn’t in a way representative of a feminine role which today’s women in India would be fighting against, precisely because of the subservient attitude he gives her. But in doing so, would they not relinquish what the poet might have developped in terms of interiorised moral standing? This version of Sita would in a way represent a double-bind: the perfect subservient wife, ahorrent to many feministic views, but at the same time her victory over man’s passions and their individualistic dictates. This reminds me of what we had talked discussed (no it wasn’t with you, but with Madhu from Dusted Off, I just checked) here: http://www.letstalkaboutbollywood.com/article-saraswati-chandra-the-last-tragedy-62159670.html

      • Very deep Yves! I went and read your blog post on saraswati Chandra with great interest, as I have seen the film and struggled to sympathise with Nutan’s character. Her ‘worshipping’ her wastrel husband seemed idiotic to me. But I am an Indian woman with a traditional upbringing and somewhere inside me a voice tells me that yes, one must do as much as one can to uphold old values. Such a dichotomy between my ‘modern’ intellect and old-fashioned heart! So yes, you have a good point there about the obedient Sita’s higher moral ground. And no, I cannot admire it yet a voice within me says……..sigh! Shush, voice, I don’t want to hear you!

  3. Jay


    The distress of Sita and the pathos centered on her treatment by Rama is theme of an old (~30 yrs) song. This is not a movie song. The lyrics and emotions that Yesudas conveys it had struck me even before it all sunk into me. Give it a listen. The poet here, the decorated ONV Kurup says: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPMmGh2ccWw

    avalude rodanam kettila nee
    avalude kannuneer thudachila nee
    oru paavam muni maatram adu kettu
    oru parNa shaalayil aval pettu
    [you did not hear her wails, you did not wipe her tears, one humble sage alone
    heard it …. and she gave birth in humble sage’s hut]

    avalude vedana aRinjilla nee
    avalude unnigale aRinjilla nee
    oru paavam muni maatram adu pADE
    oru pennin kannuneer kavitha ayee
    [you did not know her pain/torment/anguish, you never knew her babies (unni is a very endearing word), one humble sage alone sang that …. and one woman’s tears turned into poetry]

    The lyrics seemingly suggests to Rama – why?

    As usual, time is the limited resource we all try to juggle our lives with. Will write to you separately.

    • Ah Jay, you have chosen another incident from Ramayana to illustrate Sita’s distress. In fact, she has a tough time of it doesn’t she? The first of her grief is in incident illustrated by my song. She has a really tearful time in Ravana’s Ashoka vana. Then the awful walking-on-fire back in Ayodhya. Then the birth of her sons all alone in a forest. While Ramayana is a triumph, if there were to be a ‘Sitayana’, it would be a tragedy.

      The song you have included is indeed lovely and Yesudas does a lovely job of it. Sounds like Shubhapantuvarali, which always wrings the last drop of tears and blood from one’s heart! I did not like the orchestral arrangement at the start and in the interludes; much too heavy. Surely this song needed a light hand ? Yesudas is in great voice, his notes are strong and steady and the emotions beautifully expressed. Thank you for introducing me to this song.
      Cheers. Suja

  4. Ram Kaushik

    Just wanted to say I enjoyed your incisive article as well as the fascinating discussion! I think the feminist vs. submissive Sita characterization merely reflects different societal norms of the age, but the underlying emotional and spiritual value remains sublime.

    I went through your journey of 15 renditions as well as I attempted to learn this krithi. At the risk of offering up an inferior 16th, here’s my attempt!


    • Ram Kaushik

      Sorry, didn’t realize the link would show up as an embedded video. Feel free to delete the post – don’t want to take up real estate on your page. Thanks.

  5. Welcome to my blog Ram and thank you for your kind words. And of course I shall not delete your version; I heard it with pleasure and so shall my readers! Indeed simple renditions without any accompaniments have their own charm.
    Cheers. Suja

  6. vijayaa108

    Namaskaram Suja!
    I was listening to Bombay Jayashree’s rendering of Eppadi Manam and googled this krithi which landed me onto your blog.How fortunate!
    Your article says it all.Beautiful!
    The two links are also lovely.
    Your comparison of Sita’s charitram by Sri Gosvami Tulasidas,Valmiki and Arunachala Kavi just reflects how deeply you have delved into our Ramayanam from different regions of Bharatavarsham.That is admirable and as it should be!
    Reading the comments also gives another perspective to the views of the readers.Thank you!

    • Namaskaram Vijaya and welcome to my blog 🙂 I am glad you enjoyed the post and the music, I too love it! I always enjoy the comments from my readers, it is a pleasure to share and learn from each other.
      Cheers. Suja

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